Sidenote on Differences

To my sisters, best friends, acquaintances and even strangers who have reached out to me about hair. If you have ever approached me and asked me for hair advice, I am so grateful to know that you have seen and believed in my progress, so much so that you trust my words for your personal journey.

However, when you do approach me, I would never, ever want you to expect an answer for how to make YOUR curls, kinks, coils and fro like mine, because frankly, it will never happen. This isn't me being harsh but you must remember we are made profoundly different for a purpose, in so many beautiful varieties. I am passionate in helping others pave their way but I'm only a temporary crutch until you find your footing. So often, I found that even those with very similar texture as me were using completely foreign routines and products so I had to figure it out myself after getting recommendations. With natural hair, there is no right or wrong way, just what makes you feel most beautiful, and it will exude for others to see.

Don't allow what's on the media, on your feed or on my scalp to be your definition of beauty. As cliche as it sounds, learn yourself and become your own definition while you uplift those on your way. It is not possible, not fair or and I don't have any right to tell you how and what to do to look like me. That is futile when you are meant to be you, an inspiration to the next woman seeking the same advice. Needless to say, I have my troubling days wishing for something more, something bigger or longer. I've found confidence in accepting my differences within "the natural hair world" and I'm constantly shook and grateful by the spectrum of divine creation of our kind.

I thought I'd share a few of the handful of ladies I've come across on Instagram who's essence just stood out to me. Enjoy !

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